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My Friends Say I’m No Fun and Other Complaints in Early Sobriety

You used to be the life of the party, and even though you knew it was actually destroying your life, some of your friends aren’t too happy with the new you.  Some of your friends, maybe even a girlfriend or boyfriend, kind of liked you that way. Maybe you were a happy drunk, and now [...]

Comparing Your Sobriety to Others?

Everyone knows the saying about trying to keep up with the Jones’es.  Perfect introduction to a post about the dangers of comparing your progress to others’ – but also to chat about when this might actually be a good thing.
In the past, my idea of comparing was to look for anything I was missing that [...]

Happy 23rd!

I missed posting on my anniversary/birthday of 23 years. I have been moving and it has been a huge job!  Moving can be exhilirating and frustrating, it can be a happy event but is also tinged with sadness. I’ve always had to have at least one good cry when moving. I think part of it [...]

Fourth of July and Holiday Challenges

Family gatherings, holiday parties, bbqs with ice chests full of forbidden beverages…sometimes, especially in early sobriety, you just wish there would be some kind of moratorium on holidays.   My experience with these events is that they are stressful because they are often forced family events.  I know in my case, my family was something to [...]

Repairing Trust Takes Time

One of the consequences of drinking and drugging is that you destroy trust.  To keep your addiction going you lie, manipulate, and maybe even steal. Sometimes in early sobriety it’s easy to get frustrated that people don’t trust you.
“Hey, I’m not drinking! I’m a new person! Give me a break!”
If you’ve been in and out [...]