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Patience in Recovery

I can hear the howls now – I’m so tired of hearing about patience! There’s a reason you hear it; other people have gone through the same thing. It isn’t an exaggeration to say many of us wreaked havoc for years, even decades. To expect the wreckage to be cleared way in a month, a [...]

Passive Aggressive

Being passive-aggressive is a common way for people who don’t like confrontation to try to manipulate the outcome of a situation. They don’t want to deal with the conflict head on, so they do something “passive” to change or sabotage the situation.  Some great examples: Say an employee agrees to do a certain job, but [...]

Confident or Cocky?

Confidence can be an admirable quality. We tend to trust people who seem confident in their ability to do their job. If our doctor seemed nervous right before he started a surgical procedure, we would be very nervous about his ability to do it right. There is a line between confidence and cockiness. When you [...]

Happy Birthday to Me

OK this is a BIRTH birthday (grin).  There was a time I would get really depressed on my birthday, usually because I would do what I like to call a Sledgehammer Inventory.  This is quite different from a 12-step inventory.  It is, in fact, exactly what it sounds like – a sort of beating down [...]

Waiting Out Feelings

Ever had an overwhelming feeling that you just thought you couldn’t stand another minute, only to have it disappear soon after?  Most of us have. In the moment something feels intolerable and just too much to take, then an hour, a day, a week later, we can’t figure out why we thought it was so [...]